Essential Qualities Men Seek in Long-Term Relationships | Matchmaking Insights

Essential Qualities Men Seek in Long-Term Relationships | Matchmaking Insights

Many stereotypes exist about the differing needs of men and women in a relationship. It might surprise you to know that both genders are seeking many of the same qualities on their journey to find long-lasting love. Let us explain: 

Communication and Empathy 

Men value honest communication in a relationship. Without an honest and open approach, emotional intimacy and depth cannot be achieved. Relationships grow when ideas and emotions can freely be exchanged. Couples should feel safe to express their feelings. At Searchmate, our matchmaking experts can provide coaching to help guide these feelings. 

Value and Respect 

Feeling valued and respected develops a sense of worth within a relationship. Like women, men like to feel that their strengths are acknowledged and appreciated. When we feel ‘seen’, positivity and support become part of the relationship dynamic. Our matchmakers will always try to match you with like minded individuals who share the same values. 

An Emotional Connection 

Men crave connection on an emotional level. An Introductions agency will help guide emotional intimacy, which can help matches to share their hopes, dreams and fears. It encourages honesty and allows issues to be confronted before they spiral. 

Shared Values & Goals 

In order to work towards a future together, it is important that there is a foundation of shared values and goals. Men look for an aligned sense of unity and purpose with a potential, long-term partner. Searchmate is a traditional dating company that looks to pair partners based on compatibility to increase the likelihood of long-lasting relationships. 

Loyalty and Trust 

Men value loyalty and trust within a relationship. A sense of security and stability contributes greatly to a healthy relationship. Personal matchmaking encourages both of these virtues to promote successful connections. 

Personal Space 

For many men, personal space is important. An independent woman who respects her partner’s need for space will keep her own sense of identity, and allow her partner to retain his. This mutual understanding is key for harnessing a healthy relationship. 

Physical Intimacy 

Physical intimacy is often a vital aspect of a romantic relationship for men. In addition to physical pleasure, it provides a way of expressing love and closeness. Traditional matchmaking agencies carefully assess matches to ensure individuals have similar preferences. 

A Sense of Humour 

Men appreciate a partner with a shared sense of humour. Laughter develops positivity and closeness between two people. Openness is fundamental for nurturing trust and comfort in a loving relationship. 

In conclusion, in order to understand what men truly want in relationships, it is important to look beyond stereotypes. Men are looking for genuine connections, intimacy and mutual support, just as women are. Lasting relationships are built on clear communication, trust, respect and shared goals and values. Reach out to our friendly advisers today to learn more about matchmaking, and how our dating coaches at Searchmate can help you to find your perfect partner.

Our Differentiators 

Our Differentiators 

Personal Matchmaking v Online Dating/Dating Apps  

We are often asked how working with a Personal Matchmaker differs from dating online or via a smartphone app. So we felt it would be worthwhile to have a closer look at that subject as many people, particularly those under 45,, have grown up with internet-based dating and may not even realise that there is a well-established and highly credible alternative to it  in Personal Matchmaking.  

Personal matchmaking has been around for centuries and could be the source of a higher quality partner than you may be able to obtain online and also give you a better chance of success, by working with your own dating expert, rather than tackling your search alone. But is often said to be ‘the best kept secret in dating’.   

First a little bit of history on dating, as the very first professional dating agency ‘The Matrimonial Bureau’ first opened its doors in London in the early part of the 18th century around 1705, incredibly even before the United Kingdom had come into existence in 1707. Dating and introductions can actually be traced back even earlier to around 1650, when Mr Robinson first began to introduce people as part of his ‘Citizens Advice Bureau’, charging according to a sliding scale of a person’s wealth. So, dating activity in the U.K. has been established for centuries.  

Dating boomed, particularly in the USA after the First World War and in 1930’s London, Heather Jenner and Mary Oliver established a further London Bureau in Bond Street, which was the forerunner of modern dating in the UK today. Way before the internet dating revolution began in the mid to late 1990’s.  

The big difference between the two is the emphasis on the word ‘personal’ in Personal Matchmaking, which is a strong clue that you are working with an expert to help you identify and introduce you to potential partners, rather than it being something, you do alone on your PC, laptop or smartphone at home. With the end result that better results and possibly higher quality matches can come from working with your own expert personal matchmaker, rather than going it alone.  

Most personal matchmaking companies are smaller and will cost more, because of you employing an expert to assist you. But as a consequence, you will find that usually your matchmaker will know the individuals that are part of the agency and most will have been met and personally interviewed, which is something that an online agency could probably never hope to emulate. You could therefore usually expect quality and results to be better, although there could never be a guarantee of that, as no one knows where chemistry may be found.  

If you are unsure about the differences, or your best options, we are happy to offer free advice and offer the chance to ask questions to one of our Membership Advisers. This can be by email, text message, WhatsApp, by telephone or in person at our office. This advice is never charged for and there is no obligation to join afterwards. Our telephones are answered in the UK between 9am and 9pm every day and are all free to use.  

The Differences

Personal MatchmakingOnline Dating/Dating Apps
Expert help available YESNO
Personal serviceYESNO
High level confidentialityYESNO
High priority matchesYESNO
All members interviewedYESNO
In house vettingYESNO
Home visits availableYESNO
Office visits & interviewsYESNO
Choice of membershipsYESNO
Covers all of the UKYESNO
Photographs on every profileYESNO
Photography service offeredYESNO
Frequent ReviewsYESNO
Guaranteed matches optionYESNO
Freeze facilityYESNO
Dating events optionYESSOME
Coaching optionsYESNO
Free membership adviceYESNO