Our daily lives have changed dramatically in recent weeks, with the alarming spread of the coronavirus and the subsequent imposed rules of social distancing rules and staying at home. However, dating and meeting others may still be very important to us and not something we want to miss out on. At Searchmate, we have been looking at how we can best support our members to continue dating, even in lockdown.
We normally work from our lovely offices in Warwickshire where we have often enjoyed meeting new clients but following government advice, we rapidly reorganised our team of Professional Matchmakers to work safely from home. We’ve got used to virtual meetings with our team members and at the same time, we have been supporting our members in using virtual meetings too, as a way to get to know each other in safety.
Virtual dating may not be quite the same as meeting over lunch and perhaps a walk in the countryside or around town, but those are things to look forward to together and it is actually a great way to say ‘Hi’ to someone new, to see each other and to get to discover quite a lot about that exciting new person. As these are definitely still dates, we encourage our members to prepare and make the effort to look their best and maybe have a glass of something nice to sip, whilst the conversation gets flowing.
Given many of our members have found themselves living alone in lockdown, virtual dates have proved to be a great way to connect with others living in the same situation. We’ve found that virtual dating is also actually a great way for us to still help our members find love.
If you like to know more about how we can help you to meet a wonderful new partner, either in lockdown, or to take advantage of the offers we are running for new members to get ready to date as soon as restrictions are lifted, then contact Searchmate today.
Finding compatibility when dating
If you’re single and looking, then part of the fun for many of us, is going out on dates and meeting new people – it’s a brilliant opportunity and part of the pleasure and benefits of being single. But finding compatibility when dating is important too, we want your dates to be exciting and enjoyable rather than a trial or something you’d be tempted to escape through a toilet window to avoid.
There are lots of ways to determine if you and your date are compatible to create a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Many factors should also be considered such as individual commonality, interests and personality. Nowadays, magazines, newspapers and the internet provide convenient ways for couples to assess if they are really compatible. However, the best way to determine compatibility is to reflect on our personal needs and wants when it comes to dating.
If you want to assess compatibility, you need to know yourself first. This is easier if you are aware of what type of personality your partner should have. What do you want from your future boyfriend or girlfriend? You can start by thinking it through and making a list. Of course, you do not have to limit your search by the standards you created. You should be open-minded in looking for a match. Remember that the most important thing is finding someone who can share a bond with you.
Find a person who can understand you and enjoy a good conversation with. If they happen to look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie then it’s a bonus. Are similarities in beliefs, likes and dislikes important? Yes, of course they are, however, you need to consider several factors. Sometimes, feelings of love, desrie and acceptance are so strong that you are willing to put your differences aside, without further thought. But it does happen rarely!
We think you can improve your chances however and here at Searchmate, we’d love to help. We have one of the largest databases of attractive, professional singles in the UK. So if you’re looking for an attractive partner we can put you in touch. With carefully selected, quality singles, and we are one of the few personal matchmaking companies to cover the whole of the UK too. So why not get in touch and speak to Julie Lazarus, our Senior Membership Adviser on 0800 644 4160. Calls are free and Julie can be reached between 9am and 9pm everyday. Alternatively please click here to leave your contact details and we’ll get back to you within 24 hours.
Does he love me? Does he not?
What are those killer signs that a man is falling in love within a relationship? What does he do and what does he begin to do differently, if this is the real thing and he is falling for you? Here at Searchmate we take an in depth look at does he love me? Does he not? And those little tell-tale signs that a man is changing his behaviour and beginning to fall in love.
He texts you first
This little gesture is so important to a woman but is something that men often forget to do if they’re busy. He wants to get to the office early and so doesn’t always have time to stop off and say good morning to you. When you start to regularly get that first text however, it’s a sign that things are changing and that his feelings for you may well be becoming more serious too!
He wants to introduce you to family and friends
This really is a big step for a man, his friends and what they think of him is a very big consideration, he worries about his macho image and his ‘street cred’, so if he thinks enough of you to overcome these fears then this relationship could well be going somewhere. Likewise with his family – if he is willing to introduce you to mom and dad, his siblings or his children, it’s a wonderful sign that he is falling for you.
You detect a little jealousy
We feel it is a good sign if in certain situations you can detect that he feels a little jealousy. Nothing too intense and dramatic, just a smidgeon maybe, but if it’s there then perhaps he is beginning to feel quite intense about you and love could be blossoming.
He talks about the future
Men are not always good at planning ahead, so if he talks of the future, wanting to plan a holiday together or how you both might be 5 or 10 years down the line – it’s a tremendous positive, that you’re being included in his plans or that he’d at least like to. This relationship looks like it is developing legs!
He is protective towards you
If you’re out with friends or are driving home from work late into the evening, with no plans to see each other, it’s a great sign that he wants to make sure that you’re home safely. So if you get that late night text or phone call just checking that you’re back safely, it’s a sure sign he has feelings.
So are you getting the right vibes? Is he or she the one? Well we hope so, if not and you’re searching for that special partner, give us a ring on at our expense on 0800 644 4160, we are open 9am until 9pm everyday.
How To Embrace Being Single And Make The Most Of It: Part 2
So in part one of this two part series we explored how every one who is single needs to embrace the time that they have as an independent person. If you use your independent time effectively then you will be able to become a better and more rounded person, which will only make you better for future relationships.
In this post we will be continuing with this theme and looking at some more ways that you can embrace being single and making the most of it while you can.
- Start dating – If you feel like it’s time to start meeting new people then we recommend that you get out there and do it! There are many ways to meet new people and as we discussed in the previous post if you explore new hobbies and interests then you will be able to meet people with similar interests to you.
Alternatively, you may want to try a dating method that is professional and proven to work. Personal introductions and matchmaking has been proven to help create happy couples so this may be something you wish to explore when you decide to start dating again.
- Take time out to be by yourself – You should try to spend some time exploring things by yourself. If you can do that then you will learn more about yourself, what you like and the things you want in life. It will help you to become a more whole and developed person, which makes you much more attractive to the opposite sex.
- Set some standards – When you spend time by yourself and learn more about yourself, you end up learning what kind of person you want to be with. Set those standards and stick to them but don’t be so rigid with your standards that you end up eliminating every potential partner you come across.
This is the end of our two part series so we hope you enjoyed these tips and that you can apply them successfully in your own life. Make the most of your time as a single person and use it as an opportunity to become a better person.