Surviving Christmas as a Singleton

Surviving Christmas as a Singleton

Surviving Christmas as a Singleton

We have all seen Bridget Jones dreading the Christmas Party, faced with a room full of apparently happily married couples and the nosy relatives and family friends with their not at all subtle enquiries of, “Got a new man yet? You must be over old so and so by now!” Despite such gatherings giving us the impression that the whole world apart from ourselves is neatly paired off, bear in mind that official figures show that around 1/3rd of the UK population is currently single – that may be a minority but it is still an awful lot of people, in fact that’s over 20 million of us. So take heart, you are certainly not alone!

So how do you go about surviving Christmas as a Singleton? Firstly, look at all the positives. There is not the duty visit with in-laws to endure and you can relish pleasing yourself with how to best use your time. You can enjoy taking time to relax over the festive session and you can plan ahead to do activities that you know you will enjoy, without the necessity of having to fit around someone else’s priorities or schedule.

As regards surviving those parties that seem full of couples, remember that they did invite you so they do want you there, whether alone or not, you are very welcome. Keep that in mind and stand tall, dress your best and go in with confidence. Usually there is the option to take a friend along if that might help you feel more comfortable, if but so, ensure that it is someone who won’t take up all your time making sure that they are OK, after all, you need to enjoy the party too! If you think you might be asked awkward and personal questions about your love life, it may be useful to have an answer ready prepared and a plan as to how to move the conversation onto a topic you would prefer. You are entitled to your privacy and even very well meaning friends need to understand that.

You might want to be proactive and invite some friends round. Include some singles but don’t forget its fine to mix singles with couples, so invite who you enjoy the company of, rather than selecting people based on their relationship status. Make an effort to entertain and you will enjoy the occasion.

Another option is to consider offering some of your time to a charity over Christmas. There are many options for this which a surf of the net will reveal and giving of your time can be a great way of meeting new people whilst lifting your spirits and those you help in the process.

One more suggestion to surviving Christmas as a singleton is to look at taking a trip away, either in this country or to discover somewhere new overseas. There are singles breaks with activities through which you can make new friends and many of these are by no means all about dating. They can be really fun ways to enjoy social time with other like-minded single travellers.

If your thoughts are turning to being one of a couple rather than staying single and not having to go through the horrors of surviving Christmas as a singleton, you are very welcome to speak to a Membership Adviser at Searchmate, a leading professional Dating Agency offering a successful, personal and secure matchmaking service. Joining Searchmate’s membership could well see your options expanding in whole new and exciting directions, with the festive session in mind!

Want to know more? Our team of Membership Adviser’s are always happy to speak to you about joining Searchmate and to talk you through our membership options. Ring us from 9am until 9pm everyday apart from Christmas Day, Boxing Day and New Years Day on 0800 644 4160 or click here to complete our contact form.

Trust Issues In Your Relationship

Trust Issues In Your Relationship

How To Deal With Serious Trust Issues In Your Relationship

Trust is the cornerstone of all successful and healthy relationships. Everyone knows this and the thing with trust is, is that once it’s broken it can be very hard to get back. Without trust you will never have a healthy and successful relationship. Trust is something that is hard to get but it’s also essential to being able to develop a strong and healthy relationship.

There are numerous ways to build trust such as making sure your actions follow your words, opening up your heart, showing your vulnerability and generally being there for your partner. There are also numerous reasons why trust issues can occur in a relationship. The most obvious is that the trust that was built has now been broken. In many cases this is caused by an infidelity or some other dishonest action. In other cases it can simply be a result of insecurity with one partner. More often than not, when trust is broken it’s because one person has violated the trust of their partner.

Then the insecurity creeps in, the constant questioning, second-guessing your partner while they are not with you and plenty of other negative behaviours. Once this kind of thinking and actions creeps into the relationship things will start to erode in the relationship. In many cases this is the beginning of the end unless you fix it. So what can you do to deal with a break in trust? For some people there is literally is nothing. Some people believe so firmly that when trust is broken you can’t get it back. This is understandable. For others it’s going to be a long process of soul searching and proving yourself all over again to your partner. Only this time it’s going to take a lot longer.

Ultimately, it’s your actions that will show that you are serious about repairing any broken trust. So reflect this in your actions. It’s actions that speak louder than words. Your actions can either break trust or help to gain trust.