Are Second Dates Tougher Than First Dates?
It’s an interesting question to ask, isn’t it?
By default, most people would automatically think that it’s the first date that is the toughest but here is an interesting thought because maybe the second date is even tougher.
Let’s look at it this way.
We know a first date creates that butterflies in the stomach feeling. If you haven’t been on a first date for a long time then it can quite an intense experience.
You’ve got all these thoughts swirling around in your head. You’ve got all these feelings inside that feel almost completely alien to you.
But then you get on the date and things go well.
When you go out on a first date you really don’t know what to expect but when it’s a second date it’s another thing altogether.
If you had a great first date then you end up naturally creating an expectation in your own mind about how the second date will go.
This is why the second date is arguably much tougher than the first.
On the first date you may be feeling very nervous and excited at the same time but you don’t have an expectation in your head.
You generally go on a first date without much of an expectation where you are trying to see if you have a connection with that person and see where things go from there.
With the second date, if the first has gone well, you end up with an expectation in your own head. You naturally expect it to go well and now there is this barometer that is telling you to have an expectation for the second date.
Second dates are actually just as crucial as the first date because if things don’t go well then it can completely destroy the attraction that was built during the first date.
The most important thing when going on a second date is to try and stay grounded so don’t create too much of an expectation in your own mind.
You want to remain relaxed so that the second date goes as well as the first date.
Without putting too much pressure on, if you ruin the second date then you’ll destroy all the attraction that was created during the first date.