Chemistry is one of the most important elements of any relationship or dating. It is also a topic that is talked about a lot.
However, this topic tends to have a lot of misconceptions around it. Some people claim that they just cannot feel chemistry with someone when they are dating. Some people claim that if they don’t have chemistry on a first date then they’ll never have it. Well, chemistry is a tricky thing.
What even is chemistry?
Chemistry is simply a feeling. The easiest way to explain it is to think of the spark you have when you are with someone. It’s that intense feeling of connection and desire for that person. Sometimes chemistry can be very fast and other times it can take time to develop.
It’s definitely one of the most important things in any single person’s dating life. You need chemistry because without it, dates will feel boring and unexciting. You won’t enjoy your time with that person and you probably won’t want to see them again.
So how do you even get chemistry?
Well, chemistry isn’t something that you can magically obtain. Chemistry is something that you have or you don’t have but if you find that you are continuously struggling to feel chemistry with people you are dating then there may be a couple of reasons why.
One reason you may be struggling with this is because you are not being genuine and authentic. What this means is that you are so caught up in your head, worried about what your date thinks of you, that you can’t even express yourself freely to form the important connections necessary for chemistry.
If you don’t feel connected with someone then you won’t feel any chemistry with that person, it’s that simple. Chemistry is a feeling and desire that comes from being connected with another amazing person. The only way to truly connect with someone is to freely express who you are as a person so they your partner can also connect with you.
This is one of the biggest reasons why people tend to struggle feeling any chemistry. You need to be able to open up and express yourself genuinely because that is where the connections come from. If you fail to do this then you are going to struggle to generate that important spark of chemistry that makes dating so fun and exciting.