Why The Coronavirus Has Caused Us To Swap ‘FOMO’ For ‘EMOL’
Think back to a time when the world looked very different. A social anxiety known as ‘fear of missing out’ (FOMO) had become acknowledged as a real thing. FOMO sufferers felt a need to continuously stay connected to what other people were doing. As a result, real-life families, friends and couples were becoming distanced from each other. It was what ‘other people’ were doing that held real interest. This was a time when social media, and not the coronavirus, held all the power. This was the mental and emotional distancing of ourselves from those close to us.
Fast forward to now and the truth is, ‘other people’ really aren’t doing very much at all. The celebrities we once watched travelling the world are now reduced to trying to make their back gardens look enviable. Most of us are realising that, actually, we’re much happier focusing on our own lives and our own loved ones. Any-one with any sense is replacing FOMO for EMOL (Enjoying My Own Life).
“The Thrills and Spills Have Gone”
Genuine closeness and understanding from the ‘real people’ in our lives now means everything. When Amanda Holden uploaded a picture of herself mowing the lawn in her wedding dress, as an attempt to gain attention from her ‘followers’, many of us felt nothing but pity. It’s hard to pretend we’re anything that we’re not when on 24 hour lock-down with our loved ones. The thrills and spills have gone. Relationships are about patience, kindness and a willingness to be someone else’s safe place. We’re grateful for the new routines and rituals our loved ones have helped us to form. We’re grateful that someone still finds us endearing, even when they can’t escape us.
The only contact we have with strangers are meetings of empathetic eyes above a face-mask in a supermarket queue. Silently, afraid to breathe the same air, we reassure others that ‘We’re in this together’. And then, dart away as quickly as possible. However, the joy these simple smiles bring, from people we’d never have looked up from our phones for before, reminds us that whatever restrictions the coronavirus crisis imposes upon us, we share the same hopes. We all want everyone to be okay. And, we want to come out of this treasuring the one irreplaceable thing we were on the verge of losing: the joy of being human. This is not a time to watch other people live their lives. It’s about working out how to let authentic love, in all its forms, into our own lives.
Our experienced and friendly membership advisers are available to share an informal chat about how finding love during this time of uncertainty is still possible.
Is online dating killing long term romance?
Online dating has been a tremendous success in terms of the number of people who have tried it. Since the start of the new millennium, and we have seen a transformation in the way men and women now seek to meet potential partners. But the question has to be asked is online dating killing long term romance as more and more people struggle to find commitment online and men prepared to put their all into an exclusive, committed relationship?
Match.com, one of the first online sites Was launched in the USA in 1995 and in the UK in 1998. And has been a trail blazing pioneer in terms of online dating. Nine million Britons are still on the various dating sites and apps. Although in real terms we have seen a dramatic downturn in numbers in recent years. Largely due to the bad publicity that online dating has received and a spate of high profile cases in the courts that have made many people much more alert to the dangers they may be placing themselves in.
Major Cultural Changes
There is little doubt that we have witnessed a major cultural change since the start of the new millennium and that the vast numbers of people who have tried online dating have experienced a way of life they perhaps didn’t expect or think possible previously. Traditionally women may well have had two or three boyfriends and have then settled into marriage and raised a family. Now with the numbers involved it is so easy to get into a culture of seeking perfection in that search for ‘the one’ but will they ever truly get there?
Research in the Daily Mail revealed that the imbalance between women and men on some online sites can be as much as 6:1. So the question has to be asked ‘How many men are going to want to settle down in such circumstances?’
Traditional Personal Matchmaking
Happily there is an alternative in terms of traditional personal matchmaking. And the team here at Searchmate would gladly talk you through our more personal service. And how working with a Personal Matchmaker. On a one on one basis could be the perfect solution to the ‘commitment phobia’ we have described. Ring us on 0800 644 4160. Contact us via our live chat or complete our contact form. And we will get back to you within 24 working hours. It could make such a difference to you life.
In life there are two types of people who are too busy for love.
The first type is someone who is so busy with career and life commitments that they don’t even have time to find a great person for love.
The second type isn’t too busy to find time love. Instead, they are already either dating someone or are in a relationship but they are so busy that they struggle to make time for their partner.
So in this post we are going to be looking at how to deal with both types of situations.
To deal with the first situation you need to change your approach. If going out two or three times per week to social events where you can potentially meet new people is too much given your other life commitments then you need a new approach.
In this instance it may be beneficial for you to try personal introductions and matchmaking.
A personal matchmaker will work with you to get an idea of who your dream partner is and they will find potential partners for you by using a database full of singles throughout the UK.
This is the best way you can approach this problem if you really do struggle to find the time for dating and meeting new people.
The second type of situation is because you haven’t made spending time with your partner a priority in your life.
If you set it as a priority, even in your own mind, then you’ll certainly be able to find time to spend with your partner. There is a specific reason you started dating your partner so remember what it was and make the time for them.
If you don’t dedicate time to your partner and strengthening the relationship then it will eventually grow weaker and you’ll both grow apart from each other.
These are the two most common problems relating to being too busy for love. Take a look at your own love life and you may find that these circumstances apply to you. If so, follow our advice and hopefully you’ll be able to find time for love again.
This is an important area of your life so make sure you dedicate time for it. Happiness and a great life shared with someone special is much more rewarding than being alone.
Have you been looking for love only to feel constantly let down and disappointed?
The more setbacks and disappointments you experience in your search for love and happiness then the more disgruntled you’ll start to feel and the more likely it is that you’ll start thinking you’ll never find love and happiness.
Maybe you’ve tried dating methods such as online dating sites only to end up disappointed with your results. Maybe you’ve tried methods such as meeting people through your social circle, your workplace and still you’ve not had the results you were hoping for.
Dating is a tough game, there is no doubt about it so we understand if you are feeling incredibly frustrated by your lack of results.
It’s not all doom and gloom when it comes to finding love and happiness.
There is way that you can get much better results from your dating life and it’s via personal introductions and matchmaking.
With a personal matchmaking service such as Searchmates you get assigned your own personal matchmaker. They will create a compelling profile for you that will be used for ‘introducing’ you to other members in our database.
The whole service is strictly confidential. None of your personal information will ever be at risk of being exposed publicly because everything is stored offline. Using this method you’ll only be meeting people who are deemed to be a compatible match with you and are looking for the same things as you.
This way you are taking a lot of the guesswork and uncertainty out of the dating process compared with other dating methods.
So try it out, there is no harm.
Get in touch with us today and we can discuss what how we can potentially help you find love and happiness today. Call us now for a no obligation chat on 0800 644 4140 and take some positive steps in your dating life.
Don’t Give Up On Traditional Dating…Just Yet
Are you at that point where you feel like all is lost when it comes to finding love? Are you feeling so lost and frustrated that you are considering online dating sites?
It’s easy to feel like all hope is lost at finding love when you continuously struggle to find a great partner. Maybe you even had a great partner once upon a time and now it just seems as if you can’t find another person to share your life with. In all of this frustration and negative experiences it is easy to get to the point where you may consider online dating.
Well, let’s just put it out there. You don’t need to give up on traditional dating just yet. There is still time and there is still plenty of ways that you can find love without having to resort to the online dating world. In fact, the online dating world is one of the worst places to look for love. Ask yourself the following questions:
- “How sure can you be that the people you meet on there want what you want?”
- “How can you be sure that they are serious?”
- “How do you know that they can be trusted?”
- “How do I know that I can trust the dating site?”
These are all some important questions you should really consider before taking the plunge into online dating. It is easy to feel like online dating is your last resort if you are feeling frustrated and lost but don’t despair just yet. There are still some traditional dating methods for finding love.
With personal matchmaking you are guaranteed a much greater chance of finding love than what you would on an online dating site. Online dating is full of fake profiles, cases of fraud, and not to mention the fact your private info is public information. There are too many pitfalls to be worth the risk especially in an area as serious and important as finding someone to spend your life with.
If you want to know more about how you can find love then personal matchmaking can help you. Get in touch with us today to find out more.